Before you become a Mum, you’re told lots of things:
“Don’t rock the baby to sleep – it’s a rod for your own back”
“Never let your baby use a dummy”
“Breastfeeding is the most natural thing ever – it’s a breeze!”
“You’ll never sleep again”
But no matter how much advice (helpful or otherwise), no matter how many books you read or how many children you’re around, you can’t really prepare yourself for it. (That’s another thing you hear, isn’t it!?)
One of the best pieces of advice I was given, was to be honest about the reality of motherhood – the dizzying highs and the desperate lows and it’s advice echoed in Annie’s book. She writes:
“When we choose vulnerability, connection can happen i the messiness of everyday life.”
So, inspired by this and taking my own advice, here are my honest confessions about motherhood, a year in.
- Personally I’m finding parenting a toddler harder than having a newborn. (This one depends completely on your child – some breeze through babyhood, others are beset with colic and constipation – my son was what some might call an “easy baby”, but the same cannot be said for toddlerdom.)
- There have been times when I’ve missed my old life, particularly the freedom I had to work when I wanted and take every opportunity going.
- Making sure I take a book wherever I go is great for those car naps I don’t want to waste!
- I fall too easily into the trap of the “who’s more tired game?”
- Teething is a sure sign of the Fall and I’ve sometimes counted the minutes until I can administer the next dose of Calpol.
- Sometimes I regret making my son give up his dummy at six months old.
- On difficult days, nap times are my favourite time of the day.
- I quite enjoy daytime TV as company as a backdrop to pottering and parenting.
- I love going to work.
- Being a Mum is the most ridiculous, difficult, hope-filled, despair-making, contradictory, frustrating, heart breaking and joyful thing I’ve ever done.
I also heartily encourage you to head over to Annie’s blog Honest Conversation – it’s great.